There is no higher office in any land than that of president: the ruler of all people, and steward of all things in a nation. A president cannot function without his chief of staff, yet we do not call this heart of the presidency the president himself. If we called them president we would ultimately need a new chief of staff.

In a marriage there is no higher office than that of husband. The day a man leaves his mother and father and becomes one with his wife, he takes an oath of office which we hope he will serve for the rest of his life. He tells everyone and God in varied words that he will essentially love, honour, protect and cherish this woman, come what may. That day he becomes the president of his household. That day he is officially ordained as the Ephesians 5 Man. The Ephesians 5 man is the man who answers God’s call to husbands. Ephesians 5 not only ordains men as leaders in their families but it tells men that that leadership should be founded on love and love alone.

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There are three essential components in this call to a man’s role as family president. First is the call to office;the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour (Ephesians 5: 23).

The second is the duties of office stipulated, ”husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.” (Ephesians 5:26-30).

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Finally, there is validation of the husband’s call to leadership “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 this is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.” (Ephesians 5:32-33).

The leadership in the home should mirror Christ’s leadership in the church. That is not a small concept. The magnitude of this calling is almost unfathomable. Just simply imagining our little brothers as President of our dear nations one day is mind blowing, yet all husbands are called to a leadership post far greater than that of nations.

For men themselves this call is often daunting and overwhelming. However, men please remember that you are not called to do this by your own strength. The God who chose you will equip you. The person you are called to love and cherish and protect so much is your Chief of Staff. She is more than a woman, just as you are more than a man. The presidents of nations lean on their chiefs of staff; they value their voice and do not see it as a coup in waiting. They communicate deeply and thoroughly with the Chief of Staff. Absolute transparency is necessary for the Chief of Staff to ensure the President is successful in his office. The Chief of Staff doesn’t use what she knows of the President’s weaknesses to cripple him, but shields him, filling the gaps so the world doesn’t see his vulnerabilities. This only works if he is honest with his Chief of Staff about the good, the bad and the ugly. He stands confidently in front of the world, a world that never sees his Chief of Staff propping him up. The success of the Chief of Staff rests in the success of the presidency. Such is the nature of a man’s wife. She is called to be his Chief of Staff and greatest hidden asset.

Gentlemen, there is much greatness to be achieved by simply claiming your birth right as an Ephesian 5 men. For those who after reading this article have realised that this is in fact their first day in office, we as the Real Man Campaign say: ‘best wishes Mr President, your legacy begins now’.

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What is a part time dad? Many women have found this title problematic as it leads to some dads opting out of responsibilities or time with their kids when they feel like doing so. At the same time, how can a dad be a full time dad if he is not living with the mother of his child and his children?

 

Men – it’s a sticky subject, but let’s get into it. How can men who no longer live with their kids be the best dad they can be?

We tend to take our sports pretty seriously. We don’t just watch the game for 2 hrs on the weekend. We analyse, we read articles, watch highlights packages, follow on Facebook and Twitter, buy the jersey/scarf/key ring and talk with our mates about it.

Well, this month we’re highlighting some sports which you probably never knew existed but are actually awesome, funny and ridiculous all at the same time. Click here to check them out. Which one would you take up?!

Sneak peak…..clay jumping is a thing!

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This month is dedicated to fathers, so we’ve put together some awesome videos with instructions on #HowtoDAD

So traditionally family cars are bulky, not so fast and generally nothing to brag about at a “boys night out”. However, there are some family friendly cars out there that dads would be happy to be seen cruising in.

Check these out and let us know what your trendy family car would be!

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The Mazda 6

 

 

Equipping Families and Small Businesses in Africa to be Productive and Profitable

We’ve been searching for a title for what we’ve been calling our ‘family in business’ training series. As we’ve been finalising the facilitator’s manual, a theme began to emerge, which was one of intentionality.

Intentional is an adjective meaning ‘done with intention or on purpose’ or it is ‘an action performed deliberately and consciously with awareness’. So you don’t fall into success. You don’t run a home accidentally, you don’t keep a marriage or partnership together accidentally and you don’t build a successful, profitable business accidentally.

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A family that is in business together needs to know their values and goals, to manage their time and money, to practice and develop emotional intelligence, both at home and in the business. And you cannot do these things if you are not intentional about doing so.

The series of 6 trainings provides a lot of information, tools and tips for people to digest and implement. But most of all it asks people to think – really think – about what it is they are doing in their family and in their business and why they are doing it. And then to do it intentionally, or on purpose. Because family shouldn’t suffer at the hands of business and business shouldn’t suffer at the hands of family.

This course is not for the faint hearted – it digs deep and it touches two things that are very personal – family and livelihood. But the rewards of being intentional about developing both your family and business are worth it.

At Family Impact we desire to see people experience the fullness of life, freedom and wholeness that comes from being part of a strong family. Which is why we are so excited about the potential for The Intentional Family Business to impact the millions of families in Zimbabwe and beyond who run businesses together.

If this excites you, why not support us? Click here to donate: every donation makes such a difference!

‘Fathers, do bring your children up in the training and instruction of the Lord.’ (Ephesians 6:4).

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God is with us all the time and cares about every part of our lives.  ‘Whether we eat or drink or whatever we do, we will do it all for the glory of God.’ (1 Corinthians 10:31).  What an amazing verse! If we can eat and drink for the glory of God, ordinary family life is holy.

Fathers are living models and everyday examples in our homes. We will so live that our children experience the goodness of their heavenly Father through their earthly father. We are instructors. We will teach our children the word and the ways of the Lord. He will be at home in our home – in our work and our play, in our sorrows and our joys. We will sing and speak of Jesus every day. We will pray with and for our children. We will train our children to experience and to enjoy God in all they do.  God is good – All the time.

‘Fathers, do bring your children up in the discipline of training…’ (Ephesians 6:4).  You won’t find ‘discipline of training’ in your Bible but the same Greek word is translated as either ‘discipline’ (ESV), or as ‘training’ (NIV).  We often think of discipline only as punishment; training is helpful because it is such a positive word.

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A good coach trains his team. He does not often have to punish his players but he stretches them to go to their limits. He knows when to push them and when to stop. He does not ignore faults and weaknesses but he is known for his encouragement more than his criticism. After all coach and team have the same aim and are working towards the same end – to be the champions!

Fathers are training their children to run in the race of life. It may not always seem like it in the everyday struggles but our children do want to be winners. It is a privilege for fathers to be their coach, training them as they grow and celebrating when as champions they go far beyond us.

‘Fathers, do bring your children up…’ (Ephesians 6:4).  If you think that is obvious, think again!

AbseEph 6 - DOnt fathers cannot bring their children up. Neither do distant or negative fathers. ‘Bring up’ is a caring word that means to nurture or to shepherd.  It is a farming word that can be used for raising day old chicks. Chicks demand daily or even hourly attention to make sure that they have food and water, are protected from disease and that their conditions are just right for healthy growth. It is worth it when your chicks are the best on market day.

To bring their children up well, fathers must give them love, care and attention every day. Fathers need to understand their children’s joys and sorrows, successes and failures and be ready to stand back to let them discover what they can do on their own or to step in and rescue them when they need help. Bringing up children is a lot of work but it’s worth all the effort when our children succeed in life.

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As an old man John wrote, ‘I have no greater joy than to know that my children are walking in the truth.’ (3 John 4)

 

‘Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.’ (Ephesians 6:4). God is Father. We are made in his image and somehow like him in our role as fathers.  That is why fathering is so rewarding to us and so necessary for our children. It is a tough assignment which will demand all that we can give. We will often get it wrong but Father God is with us and for us all the way. He is our helper. We can trust ourselves and our children to the Lord.

Genesis 17 v7

Here is a glorious promise to Abraham which we can claim for ourselves and our children, “I will establish my covenant as an everlasting covenant between me and you and your descendants after you for the generations to come, to be your God and the God of your descendants after you.” (Genesis 17:7).  On the Day of Pentecost, Peter confirmed that this is a God word for us saying, “The promise is for you AND YOUR CHILDREN.” (Acts 2:39).